What men mean when they talk about their “crazy” ex-girlfriend is often that she was someone who cried a lot, or texted too often, or had an eating disorder, or wanted too much/too little sex, or generally felt anything beyond the realm of emotionally undemanding agreement. That does not make these women crazy. That makes those women human beings, who have flaws, and emotional weak spots. However, deciding that any behavior that he does not like must be insane– well, that does make a man a jerk.
And when men do this on a regular basis, remember that, if you are a woman, you are not the exception. You are not so cool and fabulous and levelheaded that they will totally get where you are coming from when you show emotions other than “pleasant agreement.”
When men say “most women are crazy, but not you, you’re so cool” the subtext is not, “I love you, be the mother to my children.” The subtext is “do not step out of line, here.” If you get close enough to the men who say things like this, eventually, you will do something that they do not find pleasant. They will decide you are crazy, because this is something they have already decided about women in general.
This is why it should be a red flag when a guy calls his exes “crazy.” It’s understandable to have a problem with your exes, but pay attention to the WAY people talk about them.
This is true fasting
It is necessary most of all for one who is fasting to curb anger, to accustom himself to meekness and condescension, to have a contrite heart, to repulse impure thoughts and desires, to examine his conscience, to put his mind to the test and to verify what good has been done by us in this or any other week, and which deficiency we have corrected in ourselves in the present week. This is true fasting.
- St. John Chrysostom
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“The easiest thing to feel is sadness.”
Justin Vernon (via lavendertree)
From a TCM perspective, the lungs are associated with sadness/grief.
- Sadness, Grief and the Lungs
- Understanding Emotions in Traditional Chinese Medicine
- The Lung Network: Views from the Past
So what’s interesting to me is this:
- Going back to the time of ancient Rome and Greece, it has often been stated that “disease begins in the colon” (or death, or health, etc.).
- In TCM, organs are paired. The Lung’s paired organ? The colon.
- Therefore, if the colon is distressed, the lungs will be distressed.
- Therefore, if dis-ease begins in the colon, and subsequently affects the lung, then it is no wonder that “the easiest thing to feel is sadness.”